Symbolic and Traditional Chinese Wedding Traditions
From red dresses to lucky numbers, many Chinese couples choose to incorporate these age old traditions in their big day.
By Breanna Mroczek | January 1, 2020
This past fall was a very popular one for Chinese weddings, thanks to the extra lucky number nine available on 9/9/2019.
“It’s very common for Chinese couples to pick a wedding date based on numerology and lucky numbers,” says Jingjing Zheng, founder of Bridges Creative, an agency specializing in Chinese marketing. The pronunciation of “nine” in Chinese is similar to the pronunciation for “longevity,” and incorporating the number into your wedding date is thought to ensure your marriage is forever. Couples might also look for lucky dates according to the lunar calendar, or may even honour the traditional convention of marrying in the early evening.
Perhaps equally as important as lucky numbers is incorporating the colour red. “It’s traditional for both men and women to wear red clothing and gold accents,” Zheng says. “Red is considered lucky and ceremonial, gold means luck and wealth. Cantonese families will give gold instead of money as gifts and, typically, brides receive a lot of gold jewellery that they wear as part of their outfit. I had a lot of bracelets on my wedding day.”
While a Chinese bride in Edmonton might choose to wear a white dress, Zheng says that almost every bride would still incorporate a red qipao (dress) in some fashion — likely during the tea ceremony, one of the most significant parts of a Chinese wedding, where the couple pays their respects to their ancestors and thanks their parents by serving them tea.
“While the tea ceremony traditionally only serves the groom’s parents in the morning before the wedding, nowadays it’s common for both sides’ parents to attend after the wedding ceremony, usually to recognize each other’s parents as their own.”
Next to tea, rice wine is the most important beverage served during marriage celebrations, and is important in many Chinese rituals. At the end of the ceremony, it’s traditional for the couple to interlock arms, hold each other’s cups and drink to officially signify their marriage.
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Chinese restaurants like Century Palace, Golden Rice Bowl and Emperor’s Palace are popular venues for wedding receptions. The food served at wedding receptions is similar to the food served at any Chinese celebratory banquet, with special thought given to foods with a pronunciation that is similar to words of good fortune.
Zheng says most Chinese couples won’t have registries; instead guests will give money in lucky-red envelopes, or gifts that have similar pronunciations to words with lucky meanings. “Following tradition, gifts like embroidered shoes, mirrors, scissors, an abacus and combs are often given by the bride’s family to the newlyweds for their symbolic meanings,” Zheng says.